Secret Love couple of Excellence
Pair of Excellence - Everyone who wants to have a relationship pairing that always cheerful, strong, steady, full of love and romance, and even if it can not be a conflict in it. But "tradition" in the relationship itself does not allow it free from conflicting interpretations, "knit-to-face", and offended "when things with it."
Excellent pair quarreled with reason. They do not fight too large and not by emotions when things got tense. Couples who do not function properly or may not be too argumentative, but what is sure is there in these couples is that they keep dissatisfaction and often allow this feeling grew inside. The main problem to each partner is feeling discontent and exasperation. It is like a cancer that spreads unnoticed and affect in action and other things. When this feeling is a built-in self, grew and grew, it began to have an impact on our perception of the couple. Trauma during childhood or past relationships often also produce resentment / dissatisfaction addressed in a new relationship.
How can someone be so like this? Dissatisfaction are feelings of anger or resentment that accumulated or increased slowly in a person as a result of doing or giving something to excess than of what is available. Giving in excess of what you get back is good if it sparingly. However, arriving at a time will make a person feel cheated or manipulated.
Many women believe that when a man is present in his life, it is time for him to accept. In the liver, he said, "Finally, I've no one to take care, concern to me as I take care of the others." In fact, the man did not know that he was supposed to fill the void that the woman there and think.
You have to remember this. Man is not an event to be able to understand yourself easily. If you do not tell and show him when he did something to hurt you, the probability that he continues to do the same thing that high because he did not know, did not realize that he has hurt you. This will definitely add to the wound in your heart because it seems he just "do stupid" as if nothing happened
As a mature and adult, conflict has always faced in an intimate and special relationship. If you want to be in a relationship and at the same time you do not want to take the risk, you should forget about the idea or dream to pair let alone married. Involved in a relationship as a mature and adult means that you need and must be confronted and risk-taking.
There are times when you have to say something, show, and asserts a thing and ask a question seem embarrassing or hurt your partner. If you can not afford or can not take the risk in the relationship with your spouse, a sure thing, you may not be getting intimate with her. About a particular issue that you feel sure you do not have to raise it, then do not you raise the matter directly.
Pressing / suppress anger have an impact on the most important part in each and every woman, her heart. This is the part that we all have within us. It is part of our psychologists have called the outer conscious action and its main task is to protect and allow us to live.
When we were small, the division responsible for our help to survive and gain strength. When we feel threatened, the exterior of this conscious began to act as a defense for the safety of themselves let alone their parents or guardians when we do not do something, we would LOVE to start work in a mode to save us.
To illustrate this point, suppose you are in a family. In this family, you feel as if not getting love (or do not understand, is not safe enough, etc.). May well not get adequate warmth. In this situation, your heart must find a way to save the children who are still not competitive, so that you can face such situations. Have also want to complain to someone else but you ever wonder what they can do? Finally, you convince your heart that you really do not need love at all.
In an effort to make you feel relaxed, your heart says, "You do not need to feel loved. Believe me, you'll be ok without it ". Your heart needs to "trick" you and convince you that any loss that you feel is not important and you do not have to feel disappointed. This allows you to grow and at the same time you do not realize you really are in need of love and tenderness.
Then, just to warn you so, this would seem to put a barbed wire fence around your heart so that when there is only hope that you feel or put on something or someone, your heart is enclosed will remind you that hope will only hurt you and make you frustrated. When I say a barbed wire fence, I am referring to the strong feelings such as fear, doubt, disappointment or hurt.
Things like this may be successfully done well during childhood and then you are already adults. As you grow older, something in you began to say, "No, actually I want a relationship where I loved, caressed and spoiled". So you start to let other people approach you and as in "dating", relationship, romance, couple, or even a wedding, at an early stage almost everything is very beautiful.
However, this wonderful feeling began to bring back memories of hurt and disappointment you have experienced, the memories of when I was small when you begin to have hope only to hurt later. So the barbed wire fence was first manifests and raise himself around your heart and without a clear reason, you start sabotaging your own relationship. At the same time, your partner confounded and wonder, what is wrong with him?
Well, from the perspective of your heart, you are protected. You feel that your heart is likely to be hurt again. Although you are no longer a child at this time, the relationship makes you "vulnerable" as we are all still in childhood. That's why, when we are hurt or offended, we always act as primitive and everything felt personal. This is why most men see it difficult to commit and most women find it hard to allow someone to approach or have a lasting relationship. Hearts they believe they still need protection even if this will keep them away from a relationship that they are very wanted.
Now, how you would like to know how if this sort of thing is going on in your life?
How did the situation when a person is "a barbed wire fence" around her like this?
How I was going to do to "drop a barbed wire fence" this if it existed in yourself, in your heart to make it easier for you to get an excellent relationship?
Pair of Excellence - Everyone who wants to have a relationship pairing that always cheerful, strong, steady, full of love and romance, and even if it can not be a conflict in it. But "tradition" in the relationship itself does not allow it free from conflicting interpretations, "knit-to-face", and offended "when things with it."
Excellent pair quarreled with reason. They do not fight too large and not by emotions when things got tense. Couples who do not function properly or may not be too argumentative, but what is sure is there in these couples is that they keep dissatisfaction and often allow this feeling grew inside. The main problem to each partner is feeling discontent and exasperation. It is like a cancer that spreads unnoticed and affect in action and other things. When this feeling is a built-in self, grew and grew, it began to have an impact on our perception of the couple. Trauma during childhood or past relationships often also produce resentment / dissatisfaction addressed in a new relationship.
How can someone be so like this? Dissatisfaction are feelings of anger or resentment that accumulated or increased slowly in a person as a result of doing or giving something to excess than of what is available. Giving in excess of what you get back is good if it sparingly. However, arriving at a time will make a person feel cheated or manipulated.
Many women believe that when a man is present in his life, it is time for him to accept. In the liver, he said, "Finally, I've no one to take care, concern to me as I take care of the others." In fact, the man did not know that he was supposed to fill the void that the woman there and think.
You have to remember this. Man is not an event to be able to understand yourself easily. If you do not tell and show him when he did something to hurt you, the probability that he continues to do the same thing that high because he did not know, did not realize that he has hurt you. This will definitely add to the wound in your heart because it seems he just "do stupid" as if nothing happened
As a mature and adult, conflict has always faced in an intimate and special relationship. If you want to be in a relationship and at the same time you do not want to take the risk, you should forget about the idea or dream to pair let alone married. Involved in a relationship as a mature and adult means that you need and must be confronted and risk-taking.
There are times when you have to say something, show, and asserts a thing and ask a question seem embarrassing or hurt your partner. If you can not afford or can not take the risk in the relationship with your spouse, a sure thing, you may not be getting intimate with her. About a particular issue that you feel sure you do not have to raise it, then do not you raise the matter directly.
Pressing / suppress anger have an impact on the most important part in each and every woman, her heart. This is the part that we all have within us. It is part of our psychologists have called the outer conscious action and its main task is to protect and allow us to live.
When we were small, the division responsible for our help to survive and gain strength. When we feel threatened, the exterior of this conscious began to act as a defense for the safety of themselves let alone their parents or guardians when we do not do something, we would LOVE to start work in a mode to save us.
To illustrate this point, suppose you are in a family. In this family, you feel as if not getting love (or do not understand, is not safe enough, etc.). May well not get adequate warmth. In this situation, your heart must find a way to save the children who are still not competitive, so that you can face such situations. Have also want to complain to someone else but you ever wonder what they can do? Finally, you convince your heart that you really do not need love at all.
In an effort to make you feel relaxed, your heart says, "You do not need to feel loved. Believe me, you'll be ok without it ". Your heart needs to "trick" you and convince you that any loss that you feel is not important and you do not have to feel disappointed. This allows you to grow and at the same time you do not realize you really are in need of love and tenderness.
Then, just to warn you so, this would seem to put a barbed wire fence around your heart so that when there is only hope that you feel or put on something or someone, your heart is enclosed will remind you that hope will only hurt you and make you frustrated. When I say a barbed wire fence, I am referring to the strong feelings such as fear, doubt, disappointment or hurt.
Things like this may be successfully done well during childhood and then you are already adults. As you grow older, something in you began to say, "No, actually I want a relationship where I loved, caressed and spoiled". So you start to let other people approach you and as in "dating", relationship, romance, couple, or even a wedding, at an early stage almost everything is very beautiful.
However, this wonderful feeling began to bring back memories of hurt and disappointment you have experienced, the memories of when I was small when you begin to have hope only to hurt later. So the barbed wire fence was first manifests and raise himself around your heart and without a clear reason, you start sabotaging your own relationship. At the same time, your partner confounded and wonder, what is wrong with him?
Well, from the perspective of your heart, you are protected. You feel that your heart is likely to be hurt again. Although you are no longer a child at this time, the relationship makes you "vulnerable" as we are all still in childhood. That's why, when we are hurt or offended, we always act as primitive and everything felt personal. This is why most men see it difficult to commit and most women find it hard to allow someone to approach or have a lasting relationship. Hearts they believe they still need protection even if this will keep them away from a relationship that they are very wanted.
Now, how you would like to know how if this sort of thing is going on in your life?
How did the situation when a person is "a barbed wire fence" around her like this?
How I was going to do to "drop a barbed wire fence" this if it existed in yourself, in your heart to make it easier for you to get an excellent relationship?
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